Pleasuring Her
A Guide To Giving Her Exactly What She Wants
Women are complicated creatures, all unique and beautiful in their own way. When it comes to pleasuring a woman, there is no one-size-fits-all approach, requiring you to pay attention to her movements, breath, and moans.
Below, we’ll share some key tips on pleasing her along with a guide to reading her signals to know exactly what she’s craving.
The Importance of Foreplay
Oftentimes, men get lost in the mix and wind up rushing to the finish line. When this happens, a woman is left unsatisfied, unable to feel the delights that come with proper pleasing. That’s why, before we start our guide, we’d like to hit on the importance of foreplay.
Women get turned on by a mix of factors, some of which are not physical. Women want to feel comfortable, protected, safe, and beautiful, all of which come along with keen attention to detail. Start off by kissing her softly and making your way down her neck.
Pay attention to her breathing and her motions, making sure that she’s liking all that you’re doing. Don’t go fast, start slow and build up, accompanying her on her journey toward pure bliss.
Proven Tips for Pleasing Her
Foreplay is essential and should not be rushed, giving her plenty of time to warm up. Once the initial stage of foreplay begins, you can move on to more focused forms of pleasure including genital massage and oral sex. To give her maximum pleasure, here are key things you should do.
For Genital Massage
You may want to start with a massage, still kissing her lips, neck, and breasts. For a genital massage, here’s what you should do.
Find the Clitoris
Move your hand slowly toward her genital area focusing on the clitoris. Find the topmost part of her lips and feel for a small bean-like structure in between. Keep in mind, this area is highly sensitive, so don’t get caught in the moment and go too hard.
You may want to use a tiny amount of lube in the beginning, doing so to ensure that your fingers glide and don’t snag on any skin.
Move in Circular Motions
Once you’ve found the spot, move your fingers in a circular motion, applying gentle pressure to the area. As you begin, listen to the changes in her breathing and moaning. If her breathing intensifies and her heart beats faster, you’re likely working in just the right spot.
Change it up here and there going circular, up and down, and side to side, seeing which combination she likes best.
Be Patient
It can take women a much longer time to orgasm than men, which is why patience is key. Play with pressures if needed and don’t get too rough, making sure that she’s loving it before you take a trip downtown.
It can take longer than you’re estimating, and it won’t always be the same time, so listen to what her body is telling you.
For Oral Sex
Staying too long with the fingers can get a little boring, plus things might start to get kind of dry. Once you’ve massaged her clitoris and gotten her relaxed and feeling sexy, it’s time to move on to the tongue.
Start with Gentle Licking
Using your tongue, make circular or up and down motions right on the clitoris. Don’t move too fast, taking your time and really ensuring that she feels every single stroke. Change up circular motions to up and down, allowing your tongue to gently glide across her clitoris.
Gently Suck
Don’t go overboard, as you could cause her pain, but start by gently sucking the area where her clitoris is. By this time, she’s likely much more sensitive, making it the perfect time to moisten the area and lead her further along her journey toward pleasure.
Do it a few times and then alternate between licking, changing it up so she doesn’t know what to expect at every turn.
Pay Attention
As you’re changing your motions and pressures, be sure to pay close attention to her reactions. She may start to arch her back, curl her toes, breathe heavier, all signs that she’s really enjoying what you’re doing.
Just like with fingering, you could ask her how she is feeling, ensuring that she’s enjoying it or if she wants more or less of one movement.
The Importance of Speed
Whether you’re going in our recommended order to going back and forth, there is one thing that you should keep in mind, speed. Many of the areas surrounding the vagina are highly sensitive, responding to even the slightest touch.
When you go too fast while fingering or performing oral sex, you’re not giving her enough time to feel the motions. Slow things down and appreciate each motion you’re giving her, allowing her to really feel what you’re doing and connect with you as you lead her to bliss.
The Importance of Rhythm
Rhythm is just as important as speed, though you can use a bit more creativity here. Really get into it and mimic waves that go up and down and back and forth. See what she responds most to, getting her involved if you need to.
Ask her if she likes what you’re doing, tell her to guide you, and allow her to move your head. Listen to what she says and obey, allowing her to feel all the pleasures that come from clitoral stimulation.
The Importance of Communication
In sex (and in life), there’s both verbal and non-verbal communication. While you may be good at listening to and picking up on her signals, you might want to also ask her what she likes. You can do it at the moment for a hot addition to your time pleasuring her or ask her when you guys have your clothes on.
Overall, communication is key to good sex, allowing each partner to express what they like and what they don’t. The more communicative each partner is, the better the experience is for both, so be sure that you’re listening to those verbal and non-verbal cues to give her a pleasure she’s never experienced before.
The Importance of Comfortability
All women have an emotional connection to sex. That’s why making her feel comfortable is a big part of the process. By partaking in foreplay and taking things slow, you can make her feel comfortable along the way, changing things up if you feel like there is something she doesn’t like.
If at any point in your experience that you don’t feel like she is enjoying it, you should stop and ensure that she is okay. The last thing you want to do is make her feel uncomfortable, so don’t overdo things and remain aware throughout the entire experience.
Be Sure to Change It Up
Sex is the perfect time to explore your partner’s deepest desires. Don’t keep things the same all the time, change them up with help from pleasure-enhancers like oils, toys, and more. If your partner is open to exploration, take a trip to your local sex shop and see what fun things there are.
You may well both leave with new ideas that you both can’t wait to try.
References
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-16649/how-to-make-sex-better-for-women.html
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19539960/foreplay-and-sex-tips/